7 Steps for Developing Your Children’s Self-Esteem
By building your children’s self-esteem, you will elp them feel good about themselves and gain the confidence needed to meet life’s challenges.
Use “praise words” often with your children. Praise helps build self-confidence.
Give compliments every chance you get. We take a lot of things our children do for granted. When they clear the table, do their homework, or feed the dog, “Thanks!” Otherwise, you are missing a great chance to reinforce the behavior you want.
Acknowledge special efforts. Notice when your children do something special, such as display their best manners at a restaurant, dress nicely for school, or say “please” and “thank you” without your coaxing. All of these deserve your praise.
Recognize each good decision. When your children make the wiset choice in any situation, point it out with a smile and a hug. We are often tempted to compliment from the negative perspective, such as, “It’s about time you did it right.” this reaction is actually a put-down.
Avoid put-downs, even as jokes. Children take them seriously. They may not admit it, may even laugh with you, but on some level they believe the put-down is deserved and this contributes to poor self-esteem.
Praise academic achievements. An “A” is a wonderful grade, but it is not the only grace deserving of praise. Encourage progress by praising all achievements, big and small.
Don’t compare your children. “Your older brother was able to do this faster” only discourages a child and cause resentment. Remember that each child is different and special.
© 2002 The Positive Line #79930